Tips, Experiences and Inspiration for Those who are Caring for the Seriously Ill. 

Megan McAuliffe

It’s generally a given that family and friends should do all they can to support a loved one diagnosed with Cancer. The reality, however, is that support can vary hugely from one person to another.

Although there’s a vast amount of guidance out there, the help that is needed from family members and friends when a loved one has a serious illness or injury is completely dependent on an individual’s circumstances.

A tailored approach in necessary for the person who is seriously ill or injured and/or their carer in order to fulfil effective support for long-term health conditions, or serious injury.

Organising support

As everyone’s circumstances are different, it’s a good idea to create a rota if several people want to do practical things to help. No More Grapes' private support network enables groups of people to get together to coordinate the care of a family member or friend, and tailor it to their specific needs. By creating a rota through the calendar feature on a family member or friend's Circle, you can organise to do practical things to help by scheduling in dates with each other, to help with things that are particular to that person's situation. 

Offering support

It’s important to reach out to the family member, friend or carer before you do these things to help, as they may feel a lack of control if you jump in without asking first. And don’t insist on helping if they or their carer don’t seem keen. No More Grapes enables ease of communication through its online platform, removing awkward conversations as the family member or friend can respond when they are feeling up to it, and can think about their response and whether they need help or not. 

It’s also a good tip to ask if you can help with specific tasks, such as “Can I walk the dog? Or “I’m going food shopping, is there anything I can get for you?” rather than asking if there is anything you can do.

There are so many different ways you can support someone, such as signing them up to a private support network where they can share updates to family members and friends far and wide. Sometimes, an emoji is all that is needed to cheer someone up, letting them know you are right there when they need you. 

Need support, sign up to No More Grapes' private support network. It's free and completely private.